For me as a newbie, this has been my biggest mental hurdle. Reading about the value gained with proper aging, while at the same time, racing to get a pipeline stocked as quickly as possible. I have found myself buying an additional carboy almost weekly as I make 1-gallom batches to ramp up an initial stock of wine. But also figured the more I start simultaneously, the quicker I develop compare and contrast information for future fine tuning. But yes - balancing patience and pipeline is a tough act.
You are broaching a LOT of good points, some of which appear conflicting, but really are not.
For most folks, patience is learned, especially if not coming from a family winemaking tradition. Have patience with yourself while learning patience with wine.
The folks counseling 6,12, or even 24 months of bulk aging have been making wine for years and already have a long pipeline. Building a pipeline is one of those patience things.
@BernardSmith's point about a batch per week may be one of the best illustrations of how to build a pipeline, learn about wine aging,
and learn patience that I can recall.
Nine women cannot produce a baby in 1 month, and analogously, making 12 one gallon batches of wine will not be the same as having 12 months of experiencing a wine aging. Experience takes time and there is no substitute. [This is another of those "patience" things.]
Learn vicariously from others' successes and mistakes. It doesn't replace experience, but it avoids some disappointment.
Understanding "why" is far more important than understanding "what" or "how".
Taste at every step along the way to teach yourself how wines age. Understand that all wines do not age in the same way.
Make a variety of wines -- both quicker drinkers and longer aging wine, so you have a selection and a choice.
NEVER apologize for your tastes in wine. Ignore anyone who tells you that you are wrong in what you like