Looks like all my work is going for naught.
It’s
never for naught! Even if you dump it, you learn a lot, especially when you make mistakes. It is very rare that you would ever need to dump a batch tho.
But something isn’t lining up. Adding 3 lbs of sugar to 1 gallon of juice should give you something like 1.130 SG or more, depending on the SG off the juice, which is
way too high, producing over 18% ABV, unless the idea is to create a port-style wine. But that much sugar is stressful for most yeast, and step-feeding it is usually more successful.
Adding 3 lbs of sugar to
5 gallons of juice would more likely give you closer to 1.050 SG that you are reporting, which is
too little, producing only about 7% ABV.
What temp were your crushed grapes at for 9 days? I haven’t made wine from grapes myself, but I think the recipe should have said to add the sugar and yeast to the primary fermenter (that’s why it’s called a fermenter), and to rack into the carboy after 9 days to finish fermenting and to clear for 3 months.
And time is a very poor indicator of when to do anything when making wine. Everything should be done based on SG.
Does it smell OK? If it didn’t develop any mold during the 9 days without yeast, you can probably fix this. And I think I can find a couple of posts to give you a better idea how things should be done.