I like my mead (actually metheglin) off-dry, so I use a minimal approach. First, I reserve several cups of mead to use as a control. I sweeten with table sugar, adding 1/4 cup to 5 gallons, stirring well, and then tasting. I contrast against the base mead. My last batch used 3/4 cup sugar in 5 gallons, so I
may be sweetening a
bit less than most. My final SG was 1.003. Take my advice regarding
how much to sweeten with a 10# bag of salt.
@WinoDave's suggestion to soften the honey is a great idea. I often quick defrost meats by half filling the sink with 70 F water and floating the package in it. I'd use the same approach, but run the tap top. Quarter fill the sink and then empty it after a couple of minutes, to heat the metal. Then half fill the sink with hot tap water and place the honey container in it. Ten minutes later you should be set.
Diluting the honey with mead is a much better choice than water. This way you're not diluting the mead as you sweeten it.
Target SG 1.010 for the first round, using the above information. It's much easier to add more honey than to take some out. Based upon your taste, add more honey in 1/2 increments, meaning 1/2 what you used to get to 1.010. Stir well and taste in between.
When you think the mead needs
just a bit more, stop. A year from now, you'll like what you got.
Wine strength mead takes time to age, as
@WinoDave said. Put aside 10 bottles and open them annually. By year 10 you'll wish you had more .....