@Gerry Congleton, you
may have noticed conflicting opinions. This is normal, as most situations in wine making have more than one reasonable solution. Yes, this makes it difficult for beginners to figure things out. Keep reading and muddle through, asking questions as you think of them.
In general, I use the simplest solutions.
In my experience, head space is a problem. The question is "how much is too much?", and I don't believe anyone can provide a fact based answer to that question. The simple solution? Eliminate the head space so the question goes away.
How to eliminate head space? Marbles and insert gas work well. However marbles can chip if dropped in an empty carboy (yeah, people do this), and there may be concerns regarding lead (I don't know enough to know if this is valid or not). Inert gas can dissipate and it's not possible to know that it has. The simple solution? Top up with the same wine, a compatible wine, or a complementary wine.
For 23 liter kits, use a 19 liter (5 US gallon) carboy with the excess in smaller bottles. A 23 liter kit will never fill a 23 liter carboy, due to sediment losses. Kit instructions keep things as simple as possible, but on this point they're flat wrong.
I don't use solid bungs in carboys, only barrels. Barrels evaporate water/alcohol through the wood, so as long as fermentation is done and the wine is (mostly) degassed, with time a vacuum is built up, so the bung doesn't pop. Carboys with a solid bung have no way to vent without blowing the bung, so continue to use an airlock or
use vented bungs (let gas out, not in). I switch to vented bungs once fermentation is done and the wine is degassed. If there is activity, I want to see it. Once activity is done, the vented bung eliminates the need to ensure the airlock has liquid in it.