I suspect Barry's tastes are similar to my own -- when I backsweeten a wine, it's often off-dry more than anything else.
The FWK Frutta Strawberry and Blackberry I made in the spring 2022 (yeah, they're coming up on 3 yo) each came with 2 conditioner packs. Prior to bulk aging I added the finishing pack (sorbate + K-meta) and 1 conditioner pack to each. When I taste tested them a few months later, both were unpleasantly acidic, and after reading the exploits of others when making Frutta, I did something unusual for me – I blindly added the second pack to each wine.
I like the final result, and nearly 3 years later am pleased with both wines. However, I have suggested to others who prefer a sweeter wine, that adding more sugar may be necessary. The Frutta I made are very acidic, and needed the sugar to balance the acid, and the result is not overly sweet by my standards.
If I understand correctly, Barry's problem is a result of adding table sugar to the wine after adding a conditioner pack. If you add just the conditioner, I suspect you won't have the same problem.
You might try what I did -- add half the pack to the wine, put it back in the carboy, and taste it in 30 days. Freeze or refrigerate the remainder in the pack until you use it.
Offering advice on some things, like backsweetening, is harder-n-heck 'cuz we're doing it sight-unseen and we all have differing tastes.