i dropped a copper penny inside a glass but i actually don't get heavy smells .ascorbic acid will only help me in case i have to remove the wine to an other tank to add SO2 in order to bind with oxygen am i right ?
OK,
In summary, you are noticing that you have a problem that is progressively getting worse over time. I do not think that acetaldehyde oxidation will worsen after fermentation (Correct me if I am wrong Geronimo). Given that the wine was stored close to a barrel of vinegar, I would put my money on the cause being some form of acetobacterium that got established in your wine.
My saying "KMeta Now", was and is rather sound advice. You need to kill that bacteria before it gets any worse. Deal with that bacteria, then try address the flaws in your wine.
I find having a PH of 3.6 and a TA of 7.8 odd. You might want to try some bench trials to first, perhaps, reduce the acid via k-bicarb, then bring the PH down to 3.5 or 3.6 using tartaric acid? Not sure how much the wine can be improved, but it is worth playing with it before you dump it.
Please do not take what I am about to say as an insult, and with all due respect to your father's method, your sanitary practices need serious addressing. Whenever a wine turns to vinegar, it is always the fault of the winemaker and most always could have been prevented by simple cleaning with k-meta and other sanitary products. storing your wine as far from your vinegar as possible (in a different building or different state perhaps) is a definite must!
Do not beat yourself up too much. With many (myself included) there is a struggle between doing things in a traditional way and a more modern way. Over the years, I have found great success in approaching winemaking as a science first, and an art second. Read up on modern techniques and do what is best for the wine!