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Everything said above makes good sense, to me, anyway.
Sometimes a wine can benefit from exposure to oxygen. Some companies actually make micro oxygenators to do just that and the pros, after sampling a wine, will sometimes recommend more micro-oxygenation.
A barrel is a micro-oxygenating machine! It allows very small amounts of beneficial oxygen to penetrate the barrel and soften the wine inside.
The winemaker who made the comment, which you quoted, is obviously an experienced wine maker, one who makes a living making wine. What I'm saying is he really knows what he is doing. He likely has very sophisticated equipment to check the wine and he also very likely spends some big bucks having outside consultants come in to objectively give him advice. I know they do this a lot in places like Napa, especially where high-priced wine is concerned. A good outside opinion can be helpful.
We home wine makers typically don't have or need such sophistication. As a result and other than when utilizing a wine barrel, we tend to lean toward the side of caution and put a lot of emphasis on preventing oxidation by doing as much as we can to keep our wine from oxygen.
You can experiment with this. Divide your wine into multiple parts and try different things on each part. Just be sure to keep notes (and pass the results on to us!!!)
I did a very simple-mined experiment where this is concerned. I bought bags like those used in boxed wine. Bags that are designed just for that and can keep the wine for up to six months.
I took a red kit and divided the wine into three parts. After it was all clear, I put the wine into three of these bags. I left the first part in its bag for one month, the second two months and the third three months. My thinking was that, since these bags allow air to slowly seep inside, it would provide some micro-oxygenation of the wine.
After the time periods in the bags, I bottled the wine and labels each bottle according to how long the wine was in the bottle.
In about another year I'll try them each in a side-by-side taste comparison. Who knows, maybe I will be able to taste the difference... maybe. Now, I just put all my reds through a wine barrel for several months.