slbride, Welcome to the forum.
I don't know which kit you're making or what your instructions are, but following the instructions is important. From primary to secondary is important, more by hydrometer than time. Your instructions may give you a time in the 2ndary when to clear, stablize and degas. That time can be extended 1-2 days, 1-2 weeks to make it fit your schedule.
There are a lot of toys out there, that as wine makers we like to buy and use, hoping to do a better and easier job of making wine. You don't have to have these toys to achieve a good finished product. They're fun, but not necessary.
I'm not sure which tools you have, but here are some suggestions for degassing your wines.
1. Your wine should be around 70-74 degrees when you degas. It makes it easier for the wine to release the CO2.
2. Before you degas, remove a couple litres of wine from the carboy to make room for stirring and gas bubbles.
3. You can stir with a wooden dowel, a plastic stir stick, the small end of the plastic stir paddle or spoons or one of the drill mounted stirrers.
4. When you start, stir gently, to prevent agressive foaming and spilling. (The volcano effect.)
5. Once you get a feel for the amount of CO2 coming out of your wine, you'll be able to gauge how agressively you can stir without a mess.
6. After some degassing add your k-meta and k-sorbate. You can continue degassing to get rid of the rest of the gas.
Good luck, hope this helps.