Just so I understand, the total volume in your primary container has only 5.5 gallons from the get go (when using a 6 gal kit)?
At the time I wrote my last post (May 2020) I was diluting 23 liter kits to 21 or 22 liters total volume. However, since then I have changed my mind on that, as I have 2 red kits that are overly acidic. I wrote recently that in the future I will dilute 23 liter kits to 23 liters, and add other things to improve body. Diluting to a lesser volume is throwing the kit balance off.
I don't intentionally suck up sediment, but, I don't fuss if I suck some up. For kits, once the fermentation is done, kieselsol/chitosan is added and that sediment will be handled then. My goal is to not throw out good wine.
By the standards of a few folks here, I over-sulfite my wines. I added 1/4 tsp K-meta / 5 gallons at each racking and at bottling. If it's only been a few weeks since the last racking I may skip sulfite at bottling, but if it's been a month I add sulfite. In some cases I'm probably up to 75 ppm, but it's not detectable, so IMO better safe than sorry.
I was a preliminary judge at the NY State Fair home winemaking competition for several years in the early 90's. During that time I met a guy who could smell very low levels of sulfite. A former girlfriend, who had the most sensitive nose of anyone I've known, couldn't smell sulfite when at normal levels. For me, the sulfite levels I'm using are not a problem.
Good luck with the wife. If you haven't, ask her what she wants you to make and ensure you've always got something she wants in stock. It's good to reward a spouse who tolerates your insanity ....